In spring 2016, I was sucked into going to a recruitment event for a sorority. I tried to go into this open minded. I knew for a fact I had to open up more and not be my usual awkward self. The only thing on my mind going through this was, “Don’t say anything to these girls that will make them question why you were asked to come.”
I didn’t know anything about Greek life. I never thought I would want to join an organization like a sorority. I was a part of the fashion association and the visual merchandising club at the time. I thought that I needed to make friends with the fashion majors because my mom told me I needed to have contacts to fall back on. If I wanted to make it in the fashion industry, I needed connections. I’m now a junior and I’ve only really made two friends who are going in the fashion industry. It’s not surprising they are in the same sorority as me.
The main reason I decided to go to this recruitment event was because a girl in my visual class told me I should come and meet some of her sisters. I told her I would think about it because it’s something I never thought I would do.
After meeting the five people that showed up to the event, I fell in love. Crazy enough, these five people will be in my family line. The frog fam was the main reason I wanted to join. I had a long talk with my parents before going to another event. They told me that if it was something I wanted to do to just do it.
I ended up chickening out on wing night. I just couldn’t see myself being a sorority girl. I was the not so popular girl in high school. I never had many friends. I didn’t really get along with females because they would always talk crap about each other or they would get jealous easily. Don’t get me wrong, I like talking shit every once and a while. I’m a pretty petty person. I just don’t enjoy when you’re supposed to be friends and then you talk utter crap on them. It just doesn’t make sense. I didn’t want to deal with that again.
My friend from visual contacted me again over summer asking if I was still interested in Greek life. I, again, told her I was thinking about it. At this point, I had no idea it costs so much to join or that there were classes or tests or even rituals. I knew NOTHING about it. I wanted to learn a little bit more about what I was getting into so I started researching IUP’s Greek Life. There are 11 sororities on campus. I kept thinking, “That is so many girls to try and impress.” I didn’t know that Theta Phi Alpha already liked me.
I went to kickoff in the fall of 2016. I was scared, nervous, and also excited. I sat beside a girl who was way prettier than myself. She asked if I would mind walking around to meet everyone. We both had a sorority in mind but we wanted to make sure we were making the right decision. I really liked three other sororities but once I went back to Theta Phi Alpha, the girls still knew who I was and asked if I was still coming out to their recruitment events. I nodded as I knew I was going to theirs because I was already comfortable with some of the girls.
I was on the phone with my mom for hours trying to decide if I wanted to visit all the sororities or just go to Theta Phi Alpha’s event. I didn’t know you needed to visit them twice before being considered a bid. I began getting stressed out and told my mom I was going to just visit Theta Phi Alpha and try to get a feel if I like them.
I fell right back into love with these girls. I meet more girls and every single one was so nice and welcoming. They knew I was nervous but tried their best to get me to open up. I came prepared with questions and they were so amazing at answering every single one. I, of course, was the last person to leave the event because I honestly didn’t want to leave. That dang frog fam and their charm got me every single time.
I wasn’t going to go to the second event due to the fact of dues. I told my parents how much it costs. I could have paid for the first semester but then I couldn’t pay the whole second semester. I was crying on the phone with my parents and talking to my boyfriend about the situation. Eventually, my dad told me that if I wanted to be in the sorority that he would help me out.
I was so overjoyed to be able to attend the second recruitment event. I met, even more, girls and they literally became my soulmates. That sounds so cheesy but it was so easy to talk to them. I even talked to some of the other pnms (potential new members) and they were so cool. The one I really liked turned out to be one of my best friends and of course in my family line.
The one girl that sucked me in was a girl who was in fashion merchandising. I was just listing off things I enjoyed doing and she freaked out because we were the same person. We literally did the exact same things in our free time. She is actually my best friend and I’m so glad she was there that night because I was getting really antsy talking to one member.
My big is also a HUGE reason I joined. She first off told everyone she wanted me as her little. I don’t think she realized I was still in the room while she was telling people. She was such a sarcastic asshole and reminded me of my best friend back home that I knew she was going to be my person. I’m so grateful she took the time to talk to me every round I went to. She made me feel so relaxed and comfortable.
Getting my bid was one of the most exciting days of my life. I was almost sure they were going to give me a bid but I still got nervous. The day I got it, I internally screamed but I didn’t want to show the girls that I was excited. I don’t really like to show much emotion around people. That day, I bought a frame for my bid so I could point out that people actually like me.
Joining Theta Phi Alpha has really brought me out as a person. I used to be really shy and really insecure about myself. My sisters helped me come out of my shell and accept me for me. I was told I was pretty by family and my boyfriend but I was never called pretty by random people. I thought I was too fat, too tall, too manly looking. I just didn’t enjoy who I was as a person. I wanted to change everything about myself.
Even looking back at my freshman year of college to my sophomore year, you can see the difference in my personality and even my pictures. I look, I guess, happier. College was definitely something I had to get used to. I’m still getting used to it but I feel more confident in myself academic wise and personal wise.
Thank you to my sisters who have been my support system since the day we first met. Thank you for letting me be apart of something bigger than myself. I really enjoy making this world a better place with you group of girls.